For Thanksgiving Day:

Published on November 27th, 2014 by Alan L Sklover

“Imagine that you lost your friends, your family, your home and your health. Now give Thanks that you have not.”

- Al Sklover

Giving Thanks is good for you. It restores faith, calms anxieties, clears the mind, and renews hope. Give Thanks today. And give Thanks everyday. And Thank You for being one of our worldwide “Blog Family.”

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“During an EEOC investigation, can my employer interrogate me?”

Published on November 25th, 2014 by Alan L Sklover

Question: Dear Alan: First, I just want you to know that I have watched all of your website videos, and I love them!

This is my question: I filed a claim of age discrimination with the federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (“EEOC”) against my employer. They have assigned an investigator to investigate my complaint.

My employer has been notified, and now Human Resources wants to interview me about the EEOC Complaint I filed. Can they do this? Isn’t the employer supposed to rely on the EEOC to do the investigating? How can someone from HR claim to be objective? It sure feels coercive. Can I refuse to participate in the interview with HR, and ask my employer to contact the EEOC instead?

Tallahassee, Florida

Answer: Dear Reluctant: Having assisted hundreds if not thousands of clients who were “in your shoes,” I fully understand your (a) reluctance to participate in an interview/investigation, (b) distrust of your employer’s motives, and (c) concern that whatever you say, the employer will twist, take out of context, mischaracterize or even lie about. Continue Reading. . .

Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Published on November 24th, 2014 by Alan L Sklover

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“If life has not come in and given it to you hard on the jaw, you’ll never know how to struggle to your feet, get your balance, and get up from the mat.”

– Peggy Noonan

Knocked off your feet? Once you’ve been through that – and gotten back up on your feet – it is easier the second time. The third time is not too bad at all. By the fourth time, you almost enjoy it. Don’t fear getting knocked down, and don’t lose your self-confidence if you do. As the greatest among us know, it’s nothing more than good practice for the next time.

© 2014 Alan L. Sklover. All Rights Reserved

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“Got a New Business or Business Idea? – 10 Steps to Credibility”

Published on November 18th, 2014 by Alan L Sklover

“Credibility is the art of accepting responsibility.”

- Julian Hall

ACTUAL “CASE HISTORIES: Almost more than anything else, Federico wanted to own his own business. Since childhood, he had wanted to start, build and grow “Federico, Inc.” When he was younger, he was always looking around at how other people began and ran their own businesses. Each time Federico passed an empty storefront he felt a little sad because it signified to him that someone’s dream of opening and thriving in his or her own business had not worked out. At 44 years old, he was beginning to wonder if his dream of being his own boss – and his own slave – would ever materialize.

Without warning, within two weeks’ time Federico received word that (i) an aunt he was close to had passed on and left him a sizable inheritance from her will, and also that (ii) he was being laid off from his job of 14 years, and was going to be provided six months of severance. Both were terrible news, but together they could just possibly represent a rare, once-in-a-lifetime chance to open his own business.

What Federico had been thinking about for a long time was something that he, his family and his friends always longed for: an internet service that locates historic sites of interest to those of Hispanic heritage, one that listed the sites, explained their significance to Hispanic history and culture, and suggested both restaurants and hotels in the vicinity. He knew how it would ideally look, how it would ideally work, and why it had such a great chance of success.

But Federico also knew he needed others to work with him: besides customers, he needed lenders, vendors, investors, partners, contractors and affiliated hotels, restaurants, and the like. The problem he faced was that no one seemed to take him, or his idea, seriously because Federico was not already operating a profitable business. He wondered how he might get other people to take him seriously, and consider sharing with him (a) their time, (b) their attention, (c) their money, and (d) even possibly their own business reputations: Frankly, no one seemed to want to take the time to talk to “this guy with an idea.” And, no one seemed to want to be part of an “experiment.”

What Federico learned was that the more you are making your idea “real,” the more it will be viewed to be “real” by others. Said differently, having your mind and your act together makes others want to get together with you. That simple line sums it up.

LESSON TO LEARN: It is a well known fact that many people would just love to leave their jobs, and start a business of their own. There must be 10 new television shows devoted to that very topic. The advantages are many, and it seems like a lot of fun. The problem is that there is no simple pathway to success and no “courses” out there to teach you how to do it.

One particularly vexing problem faced by potential entrepreneurs is the “new business credibility gap,” that is, until you are up and running, it is hard to get others to help you get there, to work with you, to give you a chance, to consider being a lender, a customer, a partner, an investor, or to otherwise become affiliated with you. After all, who wants to be a surgeon’s first patient, a barber’s first customer, or the one to try out the services of a parachute folder? The issue is “credibility,” which really just means “being trusted and believed in.” The problem is, “How do you get business credibility before you have a credible business, that is, before you are “up and running?”

There ten things are ones you would be wise to do, and that are available to you to do, in order to gain the new-business (or proposed-business) credibility you need to get your new business or business idea off the ground. They are the “making it real” that Federico learned makes others feel you are “for real” and that is the essence of new-business credibility.

Having helped many people transition from employer-employment to self-employment over the years has given rise to these 10 steps to gaining credibility for a new business or new business idea and you’ll see what I mean.

HERE ARE 10 STEPS TO CREDIBILITY FOR A NEW BUSINESS OR BUSINESS IDEA: Bear in mind that no single one of these ten steps is essential to establishing credibility for a new or proposed business, but the more you put into place the more credibility your new or proposed business will enjoy. “Make it real, and it will be real, to you and others.” And bear in mind, too, that these ten steps are not the only steps you can take to engender credibility to your new or proposed business: Continue Reading. . .

Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Published on November 17th, 2014 by Alan L Sklover

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“If I wasn’t making mistakes, I wasn’t making decisions.”

– Robert W. Johnson
  Founder, Johnson & Johnson

Mistakes. Don’t worry too much about making them. Worry, instead, about not making informed decisions, wise decisions and timely decisions. Mistakes? They are inevitable. Except the greatest mistake of all: indecision.

© 2014 Alan L. Sklover. All Rights Reserved

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for over 30 years

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