Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Published on July 9th, 2018 by Alan L. Sklover

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“To be successful you must accept all challenges that come your way. You can’t just accept the ones you like.”

– Mike Gafka

At work and elsewhere, challenges can be fun and exciting. But, more often than not, they will be frightening, exhausting, foreboding, and near-overwhelming. Don’t run from any of them; accept them all. Each is an opportunity to test your strengths, and to confront your doubts, fears and limits, and, in the process, build your self-confidence like nothing else can do for you.

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Independence Day

Published on July 4th, 2018 by Alan L. Sklover

“The bravest things we do in our lives are usually known only to ourselves.”

– Peggy Noonan

You might not have thought about it, but Lady Liberty always stands by herself. The quest to be free, and to help others be free, is first and foremost an internal quest. When my mother was a child, she arrived in New York harbor on a boat, and she no doubt saw Lady Liberty standing there, all by herself. At that moment, I’m certain my mother felt less alone. Just as Lady Liberty does each day, so, too, can each of us do something – however small – to help someone be free: free from hunger, free to express his or herself, free to pray (or not to pray) in any way they want to, and to be free from fear. Go ahead, lift a torch to someone. Enjoy your freedom to do so.

That’s what our blog efforts are all about. On behalf of all of us at SkloverWorkingWisdom we wish you a happy and safe 4th of July.

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TRENDS @ WORK – Bully Boss’ed is the New “MeToo”

Published on July 3rd, 2018 by Alan L. Sklover

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Bully Boss’ed is the New “MeToo”

It’s a trend, and a growing trend: the workplace is becoming more uncivil, at times hostile, and more often than we’d like, downright brutal.

Fortunately, employers are also becoming increasingly aware of the many negative effects it has on their interests, including (a) increased absenteeism, (b) decreased productivity, (c) increased distraction from achieving goals, and (d) decreased retention of valuable talent. It is the ultimate “lose-lose” proposition for employers.

Nike has recently let go five executives – four male and one female – from their senior management ranks due to their bullying. One dismissed executive was expected to become the next Nike CEO. Google is now seeking to address the negative effects of bullying in their management ranks. There’s no question: bullying at work can have devastating effects to everyone, victims, bullies and all those around them, too.

In coming months, we will be posting more articles on How to Identify Bullying and Bullies, Understanding – Without Accepting – the Mind of a Bully Boss, How to Avoid Being a Bully Boss’s Victim, and What to Do If It Happens to You.

In the meantime, bear one thing in mind: “HEALTH COMES FIRST.” If you feel bullied, you should seek the help of friends, loved ones, and, possibly, health professionals, in minimizing its effects on you. There is truly nothing more important than your health.

bully boss trends @ workSecond, there are ways to try to put a halt to it, some more effective than others. Those ways will be the subject of our upcoming series of posts. As they say on TV, “Stay Tuned.”

And lastly, for now, know that many others are in “your shoes.” It is estimated that one in five American employees has been bullied. Like the “MeToo” movement, we seem to have reached a “tipping point” in response to this phenomenon, and there is, as never before, some hope to be had.

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“You’re Not Alone . . . any more . . . at Work.”™

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Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Published on July 2nd, 2018 by Alan L. Sklover

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“When you go to put out a fire, don’t bring gasoline.”

– Chris Cuomo

A few years ago, at the end of a long day, I was traveling home from my office on the Long Island Railroad. The railcar I was seated in was totally full, with no seats available. A young woman came down the aisle looking for a seat, but could not find one. She looked so pregnant as if she was due to give birth last week. No one stood up to offer her a seat. No one. I quickly got up, and gave her my seat. She could have been my daughter. I wanted to tell the men in that railcar how disappointed I was with them. I wanted to tell the women in that railcar that I was even more disappointed with them, as most had carried unborn babies, themselves. Instead, I bit my lip, and said nothing, but just stood in the aisle the whole ride home, next to the very pregnant young woman. To this day, I think my standing up quietly said more than any words could have. It was one of my proudest moments. I think I affected more people by example. Loud and mean words never say very much, or have much effect, or change many hearts or minds. I hope you agree.

This quote was something I heard on TV last week. It was about reducing the meanness, crudeness and incivility we see and hear so much of lately.
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We’re pleased to offer another new “Model Letter”:

Published on June 26th, 2018 by Alan L. Sklover

“Before Background Check – Sharing Very Personal Issues”

No one is perfect, and no one’s life history is perfect, either. So many of us have been found in possession of marijuana, or arrested for Driving Under the Influence, perhaps even alleged to have harassed someone.

If you are soon to start a new job, you are likely to be subject to a pre-employment screening, often called a “Background Check.” In many cases it is wise to share the indiscretion or very personal issue with your soon-to-be-employer before it comes up.

The worst-case scenario would be for you to resign, start the new job, and then two weeks later, be told your “past issue” disqualifies you, and are fired. Ouch! That’s not an easy thing to deal with, or explain on other interviews.

This Model Letter shows you how to address such issues in a direct, candid and forthright manner, intended to get you an “O.K.” or “No Way” before you resign and start the new position.

This particular Model Letter addresses two issues of (i) marijuana possession and (ii) driving under the influence of alcohol, but is a helpful model to address other issues, as well. (We expect to offer additional such letters in the future.) As do all our Model Letters, this Model Letter shows you “What to Say, and How to Say It.”™

*To obtain a copy of this Model Letter, just [click here.]

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“You are not alone, at work, any more.”

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Alan L. Sklover

Alan L. Sklover

Employment Attorney
and Career Strategist
for over 35 years

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