Friday Feedback

Note: A recent blogpost entitled “Where Can I Find Niches to Further My Career?” brought forth a nice – though brief – comment from one of our loyal readers:

“Brilliant article! Thank you!”  

Joyce Behr, Esq.
Farmingdale, New York

Dear Joyce,

As I have said before, THANK YOU for your supportive feedback. As an accomplished attorney, author and recruiter, your words are so very much appreciated, and respected. I only hope to continue to warrant your support.   

Very Best,
Al Sklover

Note: That same blogpost brought forth this very thoughtful – and thought-provoking –comment from a blog visitor:

“When I graduated from seminary in 1979, parish ministry was a secure, life-long vocation. Congregations calling pastors were at a comfortable number, so pastors had a relatively easy task moving to a new place of service.

In the past two decades, the situation slowly started to change. Denominational leaders grew more aware of ‘sick congregations’ and the emotional, physical and spiritual toll they were taking on their pastors. As a result, the denomination’s District Presidents (or bishops) created a new category for congregations: ‘non-calling congregations.’

At this point, up to 60% of congregations are ‘non-calling.’ As a result, there is little movement of clergy which may have a negative effect on both congregations and pastors when irreconcilable conflict arises.

As one who was in this kind of situation, it was necessary for me to resign from parish ministry, go on a mental health disability, and then retire at the ripe young age of 55. As you wrote, job security is a thing of the past. Parish ministry was once a ‘tenured’ position. That is no longer the case.

Thanks for the questioner’s question, and your reply.”

(Hometown Not Specified)

Dear Dale,

The overall insecurity in the world of employment has no exceptions, whether we speak of the profit-making sectors or the not-for-profit sectors of the economy. Your note reminds us that, even in spiritual matters, where human needs know no slowdown, it is the same. In fact, it is times such as these that seem to call for greater spiritual guidance and healing. May I convey to you my sincere hope and wish that things go better than they have. You no doubt have a lot to offer; I hope you find those who appreciate what you give. Know, at least, that I appreciate you.  

Very Best,
Al Sklover

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Note: One of the joys of writing this blog is the messages we receive from blog readers who have followed our suggestions, to their benefit and betterment. That means to us that, indeed, we are helping “repair the world.” Those messages come in emails, letters and phone calls, and they are deeply motivating. Here’s just one example of the many:    

“I used your advice, and it worked!! Thank you sir!!”      

Michael H.
Bellbrook, Ohio

Dear Michael:

You’re welcome, sir!! Please tell your colleagues, friends and loved ones that, indeed, some of our ideas do in fact work! Thanks for writing in!!  

Very Best,
Al Sklover

And here’s a note we received from another “pleased blog reader”:

“The last time I submitted a question for you, I was so pleased with the answer, and it helped me immensely . . . I so appreciate your wisdom!”

Marsfield, Wisconsin

Dear Michele,

Thank you, sincerely, for writing in and for reporting your success. I will try to attend to your new inquiry as time permits. As my son is a student at University of Wisconsin, all I can say is “Go Badgers!”

Very Best,
Al Sklover

Note: . . . BUT ON THE OTHER HAND, not all of our blog visitors are pleased with what we write. Some are downright unhappy. That is OK with us, so long as our blog visitors understand that we “do our best to do our best.” Here is a comment on our blogpost entitled “12 Ideas for Dealing with the Boss From Hell”:

“Although your advice in dealing with the most urgent cases of outwardly abusive bosses is helpful, you do a disservice to your readers if you limit the discussion to such ways that suggest, through omission, that only those who yell and throw dishes are abusive.

There is such a thing as the manipulative, deliberately crazy-making boss who sets his employees up to fail in order to make himself feel ‘in control’ and better. These types especially love it when they can do it all with a calm, rational manner that has you questioning your own sanity. If you blow your top with these types, as you eventually will when their irrational and often conflicting demands force you to lose your cool, they’ll smile because they believe that the first one to yell has officially ‘lost’ all further arguments.

Don’t limit the discussion to outward abuse. One’s life can be made as much of a hell from someone who smiles and tries to act ‘reasonable’ all of the time.”

(Hometown Not Specified)

Dear Suspira,

Points well taken. Thank you for pointing it out, and expressing it so well. I appreciate ALL feedback, of every kind. I really do.

Very Best,
Al Sklover

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Note: Our “Monday Thoughts for the Work Week” get us a lot of nice responses. A recent quote we cited, and that people seemed really to love, was this one:  “Dogs have owners. Cats have staff.” Our thought was this: 

“It just seems to be in their natures. At work, you’ll find some people are that way, too: some are subservient, while others just seem to expect to be served. Be neither. Be human, and be humane. Be a collaborator, not a cannibal. Don’t look up at people. Don’t look down at people. Just look straight ahead, and people will know you, and admire you, and want to work with you, for your humanity and for your human decency.”

It brought forth this email response:

Dear Alan,

WOW! That’s great wisdom! Thank you, Alan, for sharing such mind blowing quotes. Will be looking forward to your next “Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week.” Keep on posting!

(Hometown Not Specified)

Dear Xyza,

Glad you enjoy those Monday Thoughts. I enjoy writing them. And, yes, I will continue posting them so long as I blog!  

Very Best,
Al Sklover

Note: An extremely popular recent blog post was entitled “Avoid, If You Can, The “Obsolete Job Trap.” This is one of the several responses we received:

“This is one of the clearest assessments I have seen about job-market trends. I am currently employed part-time, after having been laid off from a full-time job almost three years ago. These points clarify some of the issues I have faced in my job hunting as I seek to remain on a career (vs. job) track, and impel me to revise my search strategy.”

D. Panton
(Hometown Not Specified)

Dear D. Panton:

It’s hard to swim upstream, against a strong current. Some vocations are simply shrinking, while others flourish, and the trends are accelerating. Hope our post continues to help you, and others, to find the right and rewarding path.   

Very Best,
Al Sklover

We LOVE feedback of every kind. Your taking a minute to drop us an email would be so very much appreciated. Please keep email inquiries to 100 words or less; briefly worded inquiries do get priority.

Remember . . .

“You are not alone, at work, any more.”™

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