Sklover’s Monday Thought: “Stuck Where You Don’t Belong?”

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Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying somewhere you don’t belong.”

N.R. Narayana Murthy

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What is today may not be what will be tomorrow. Things change, sometimes they change a lot. Sometimes “good” can turn to “not good,” especially in relations. Perhaps that is truer in the employment relation than in most others.

The employment relation is a very important relation. You may spend more time with your office colleagues than you do with your family. And, too, it is your employment relation that permits you to afford to care for yourself and your family. What do you do when a “good” employment relation becomes a “not good” one? When that happens, the one thing you must avoid doing is letting your fears prevent you from making the changes you need to.

Don’t rush into making any possible change, as there is nothing wrong with trying to heal any rifts or wounds where you are. But when you conclude “in your bones” that this is no longer the right workplace for you, no longer good for your emotional or physical health, or career development, and not something you look forward to, don’t fear making a change. Fear, instead, not making one.

Of course, as to any change you may decide to make, do it carefully. Make a plan, choose a goal, set a timetable. Look at the possible rewards, but don’t forget to identify and calculate the potential risks, too.

There’s nothing wrong with fearing change; that’s only human. But there is nothing to be gained, and a lot to be lost, by letting those fears hold you back. “Later” could end up being “too late” to do so.

Who submitted this quote? A former client who recently wrote to me, “Your advice was a bitter pill to swallow, or maybe I should call it a kick in the pants, but you were right. And I am so glad I did leave. I look back with relief, and my only regret is I didn’t leave sooner. It definitely was the time to make my change.”

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