Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Sklover Working Wisdom Big Smile Woman

“If you make a woman laugh, you’re almost there. If you’re almost there, and then she laughs, that’s a different story.”

– Roman Khanna

Laughter, especially laughing at yourself, is such a wonderful thing. It reminds each of us of the many imperfections that make us all so lovable, and that others share our imperfections, and thus, are equally so lovable, too. There’s surely a serious side to life, but that other side – the funny side – is just so darn oh-so-sweet. If I have given you a chuckle today, to start your work week with a smile, I’ve done what I set out to do. And, I’ve given myself a chuckle in the process. Why not? Have a great week at work or vacation week. And don’t forget to give yourself a laugh.

This quote was shared with us by G.T. of Bainbridge Island, Washington, who claims that her dog, Melvin, tells her jokes each and every day. Okay, G.T., our thanks go out to Melvin.

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Sklover Working Wisdom Kind Hand

“Be kind. Everyone you meet is carrying a heavy burden.”

– Rev. John Watson

In working with other people – whether colleagues, customers, managers, or even competitors – don’t forget for a moment that each has a “difficult story” of grief, pain and concerns inside of them, and each is, from his or her own point of view, “carrying a heavy burden.” Just as you do and as I do, too. It may not be obvious, but it is near certain, just as certain as the fact that pain, grief, loss and fear are parts of the human experience of life. In fact, understanding this truth is an integral message of each of the major religions. Being kind does not mean being foolish, subservient or vulnerable; it does mean being aware, wise, understanding, and strong, each of which is key to a truly productive and humane life, and navigating it to your own best life.

This quote was shared with his viewers by Anderson Cooper, the CNN host, in a recent interview. We thank him for it.

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Sklover Working Wisdom girl praying

 

“Faith sees best in the dark.”

– Søren Kierkegaard

Sometimes, at work, sometimes at home, it sure seems “dark,” and not at all easy to have hope for the future. We may try to console ourselves with “It will all work out,” and at times it does. At other times, though, you are beyond that stage, and see no logical reason to keep going at all. It is precisely in those moments that you experience faith. Irrational? Sure, but that is the point. In the darkest of times, that is when faith finds you, and you find faith. It just sort of steps up to embrace you, in the very darkest of moments.

This quote was used this week by Former Vice President Joe Biden, a man who has seen great tragedy in his life, but remains a true man of faith. Thanks, Joe!

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Sklover Working Wisdom Ladders

 

“It’s better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than at the top of the one you don’t.”

– Stephen Kellogg

This thought may seem most applicable to those in the early or even middle stages of their careers, but it is a message, too, to all. I began my “blog career” at a relatively “ripe old age” and it is literally keeping me young, healthy and handsome. (LOL) The idea is simple: what you do during most of your waking time so very much determines your health and happiness. Even those at the top of their “ladder” sometimes decide to start over again. And that includes retirees, too. The world is always changing, and so, too, should the way you interact with it, to find and enjoy what makes you happy, healthy, and good-looking, too, inside and out.

This quote was sent to me by Norma, a youthful 89, who has been enjoying her newfound hobby of “chair yoga.” Namaste to you, Norma!!

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Sklover Working Wisdom Statue Liberty

 

“It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.”

– Chinese Proverb

Oh, sure, this saying is quite common and often considered trite. But, too, it is important to keep in mind in these difficult times. Take a positive step instead of being angry at those who take negative ones. Engage in an act of kindness instead of being angry at those who hate. Do what’s right instead of being upset at those who do what is wrong. It’s good for your own soul, and good for others’ souls, as well. At home, away, and at work. Try it at work for a week: one “good deed” a day. That is really what can improve things, and lift the darkness around us. Being a light in the dark is a big part of our motivation for our SkloverWorkingWisdom.com efforts.

This quote was the theme of a recent ecumenical conference I attended that helped people see the good in each other, not the bad, and to recognize that we all are capable of both good and bad.

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Sklover Working Wisdom Stop hate

 

The time is past due; today, I must express my Very Deepest Concern.

I am neither a Democrat nor a Republican. I am the son of a refugee who arrived on a boat, and who feared her whole life being “sent back.”

I am someone who, at a young age, was separated from my own family.

When we moved to the suburbs, my first experience – at age 2 – was to be beaten by older kids due to my family’s religion.

Yet, from a young age, I was so very fortunate to be the recipient of the kindness of strangers.

Hatred and Hate Speech are a disease; they are poisonous to the soul, and to the soul of a nation, indeed, to the world.

I don’t have any intention of getting involved in politics of any kind, and I don’t mean to take “sides” of any kind.

But I feel I must express my view publicly that those who practice hatred and hate speech must be denounced for it, must be isolated from those of us who just want to live and let live, to help ourselves, help those we love, and help our neighbors and friends at work.

Separating children from their parents is, perhaps, the most hateful thing I can imagine. The pain lasts a lifetime. “Go back where you came from” is a close second.

If the economy is so good, why in the world do we need to cut off food assistance to those among us who are hungry?

All forms of hate; all forms of hate speech. I condemn them, and those who practice them, and I ask you to do what you can do to condemn them, as well.

When my son, Sam, was in 6th grade he was assigned to do a report on what the world’s religions had in common. He found the answer in just three words: “The Golden Rule.”

It is in every great book. Without Exception.

What is taking place is wrong, very wrong. And it will only get worse if we are silent. We should not permit such shameful and sinful behavior in our names.

Sorry for the “rant,” but Dignity is what this blogsite stands for, and Dignity at Work, in particular. That is my life’s work, too. It is a core value, nothing less. We need to live and work together.

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
– Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr

Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Man in shirt is fighting against his self

“How did things ever get so far? I don’t know. It was so unfortunate, so unnecessary.”

– Don Corleone, “The Godfather”

It happens to everyone, every once in a while: a difference becomes a dispute becomes a war. “It is so unfortunate, so unnecessary.” It’s one thing when you yell at a passing motorist, but it is another when you harm an important relation, or make an unnecessary enemy at work or among family. In times of heated weather or heated words, where and when patience is thin and tempers flair . . . take a breather, go for a walk, count to one hundred, keep in mind how important relations are. Don’t let things get “so far, so unfortunate or so unnecessary.” At work perhaps more so than most other places, relations are important, so don’t waste them.

This quote was recently used by one of my favorite newspaper columnists, Peggy Noonan, a former speech writer for President Reagan. A shout out to you, Peggy.

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Sklover Working Wisdom Summer Hammock

“Summer is when laziness finds respectability.”

– Sam Keen

Boy, oh, boy . . . we can all sure use a break from work this year! In fact, this year we can all use a break from just about any serious thought or endeavor. Unfortunately, surveys show Americans are taking off less time from work than ever. Plain old simple relaxing seems a thing of the past, but it’s been proven to be a necessary ingredient for health and well-being, both physical and emotional. Yes, after crazy weeks, crazy news and crazy weather – and that does not even include crazy people at work – we can all use a nap, a walk, a good book, a day at the beach, and other forms of respectable “laziness” to maintain balance in our lives. Don’t be afraid to be a bit “lazy” this summer; rather, be afraid not to.

This quote was offered to us by Beverly of Bethesda, Maryland, who has shared, as well, that her favorite form of “laziness” is playing “house” with her granddaughter. Sounds good to me!

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Sklover Working Wisdom Singing Bird

“Be a voice, not an echo.”

– Albert Einstein

We all have our own unique experiences, our own unique perspectives, our own unique special “gifts” to share with others. Together, they comprise our own unique voices. The toughest part is listening to it ever so intently, and discovering what that “voice” is, and what it sings. While we are tempted – even encouraged by some – to “echo” the voices of others, your own special gift is your own unique voice. Pursue it, explore it, cherish it, share it. And never lose sight of its unique, extraordinary sweetness. At work and elsewhere, that is what you will be known for: the sweetness of your inner voice.

This quote was offered to us by Gil and Laura, of Bensalem, Pennsylvania. Thanks, Gil and Laura!

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Sklover Working Wisdom Courage

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I lived through this horror, I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

All I can add to this true wisdom by a truly valiant woman, one who has championed human rights her entire life, is that I wholly agree with her.

This quote was transmitted by Gloria G. of Encinal, Texas, who adds that it is taped to her refrigerator for her family to see every single day of their lives. What a meaningful reminder.

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African american woman wearing yellow sweater at kitchen smiling with hands on chest with closed eyes and grateful gesture on face. Health concept.

“There is no one luckier than he who thinks himself so.”

– German Proverb

This is a pure and penetrating insight into the power of perspective. We can pity ourselves, we can enjoy ourselves, or we can empower ourselves, simply by how we choose to see ourselves. Have running water in your home? A clean bed to sleep in? Enough food? Perhaps even family and friends? Your health ok? Well, if you can get even close to completing that checklist, you are far, far ahead of most of humanity. And, too, probably far, far luckier than your grandparents were. So very much depends just on how you choose to see yourself.

This quote was submitted to us by Norma B., of Findlay, Ohio, who adds, with such sweetness, “Alan, I am lucky to have found you and your site.” Norma, I am lucky to have you part of this Blog Family, too.

If you would like to contribute a saying, proverb or quote, we’d love to receive it and share it with our Blog Family. To do so, just send it to “The Boss,” Vanessa@ExecutiveLaw.com.

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Sklover Working Wisdom Girl Dad

“How do kids spell ‘love’? T. I. M. E.”

– Unknown

In this hectic, demanding, time-squeezed life we live, it is increasingly the case that we give to those at work, and shortchange those in our personal lives, especially the little ones, who need our time and attention. It’s tough to choose, but it’s also important to pause and think about how we can accomplish both. Are there not times that could be given more to children and less to work? Come to think of it, let’s add seniors, infants and everyone in between who are in our lives; they all spell ‘love’ T.I.M.E. When I see a family of four sitting in a restaurant . . . all texting or otherwise relating to their cell phones, I cringe. Want to live a good life? Just do what is good. Give those who you care about more time. And, I assure you . . . it is a gift to yourself, as well.

This quote was submitted to us by Sheryl K. of Port St. Joe, Florida, who found our site just a few short weeks ago. Welcome to you, Sheryl.

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nuts

“When you innovate, you’ve got to be prepared for people telling you that you are nuts.”

– Larry Ellison, Founder of Oracle Corporation

Whether you “see things others don’t,” “dance to the beat of a different drummer,” are “ahead of your time,” or have a rather odd “vision” of how things work, or should work, you are almost by definition a “nut.” That’s what they told Jeff Bezos of Amazon, Steve Jobs of Apple, Albert Einstein and each and every other “nutty” innovator, creator and ground breaker. Don’t fear it, but rather, embrace it. Lots of lawyers tell me I am “nuts” for maintaining this website, but they just don’t see what I do, and what the many people each day who send me wonderful notes do, too. Nuts . . . unite!

This quote was submitted to us by Helaine B. of Long Beach, California, who reports that she recently learned of this website, and wishes she did so years ago. Helaine, welcome and thank you . . . better late than never.

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Sklover’s Thought for the Work Week

Stevie Wonder

“Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there.”

– Stevie Wonder

First of all, Stevie Wonder is, for me, one of the true Wonders of the World. There is something nearly beyond human in his music and lyrics. Last week I listened to a podcast about music. Someone mentioned that Stevie Wonder had agreed to appear at a charitable event for a small charity, and to do one song. The charity was more than thrilled. He arrived, practiced with their band, but instead of one take, he insisted on practicing that one song with them for three hours. About 20 takes. If he was going to do it, well, he was going to do it right. Even for a small charity. That, my friends, is why he is at the top, and why he has been there for so long . . . true character. A true Wonder of the World. (He makes me dance, especially when no one is looking.)

This quote was submitted by my son, Sam, who is a musician, employed in the music industry, and – like me – a very big Stevie fan. Thanks, Sam, for your contribution, and Thank You, too, for being the young man of character you are.

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field with plenty of blossoming sunflowers

“So much has been given to me, I have no time to ponder what has been denied.”

– Helen Keller

Helen Keller was left blind and deaf by an illness at age two. Yet, she became the first blind-deaf person to graduate from college, and then went onward to become a world famous author, activist and lecturer. As her words attest, she focused on the positive, appreciated all of her blessings, and never wasted a moment to self-pity. An inspiration like few others; an example for us all.

This quote was submitted to us by Michele D., a long-term member of our Blog Family, whose most recent contribution, above, she uses in her daily endeavors as a training professional. Our heartfelt thanks go out to you, Michele!

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Community And Friendship

“To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul.”

– Simone Weil

This observation upon the human experience is, to me, extremely profound, near universal and very powerful. You may be able to use it to better understand others, but perhaps it is best used to better understand yourself. If a person is not firmly “rooted” in something, just like a shallow-rooted tree, any storm may find them unprepared and unable to stand firm, unable to bend with the wind, and more likely than others to simply topple over. Unlike trees, we are not rooted in the sand or soil, but rather in beliefs, in relations, in values, in a purpose, or perhaps in the shifting, shallow sands of unending greed, power and self-indulgence. As we grow and mature, this truth becomes so simple, clear and obvious that, well, we might just wonder how it seems at the same time so new, fresh and startling. Give it a moment to sink in. It’s just a few words, but reflects a deep understanding of us all.

This quote was submitted to us by two dear, dear friends who requested that they remain anonymous. They are sisters, of advanced age, who are two of my very favorite people in the world. A sincere Thank You goes out to them both.

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Impossible Concept With Businessman and Wooden Blocks

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”

– St. Francis of Assisi

Boy, oh boy, do I love this quote. St. Francis had it right when he shared his view of how he simply did the impossible, well, that is, after he did the “necessary” and then turned his attention to doing the “possible.” He is known as the patron saint of the animals, the earth and the environment. His works for simple, common people, especially those facing great difficulties in their lives, has had a lasting resonance for people all over the world in the nearly 800 years since his passing. Maybe you will not accomplish the “impossible,” but you can simply start with the “necessary,” and see where it goes from there. I am deeply inspired by him, in my own daily quest to “improve the world, one empowered and productive employee at a time.”

This quote was shared with me by an old friend, Angie, from Naples, Florida, who is widely known to regularly accomplish the impossible before lunchtime. For this quote, and for so many other kind deeds in the past, a sincere Thank You goes out to her.

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Children living in poverty

“You can’t be what you can’t see.”

– Marian Wright Edelman

This quote is a keen observation of the fact that your vision for yourself, to a degree, may be limited by your experiences, if you permit that to happen. As an example, if no one in your family ever worked as a police officer, it is less likely that you will do so. The same works in reverse: if all of your family were police officers, it is far more likely that you will be one, too. When presented with a career opportunity that is outside of your experience and that of your family, bear that in mind. Consider seeking out people who have “been there, and done that” to take advantage of their familiarity with what might await you. And, too, give yourself an extra dose of self-confidence by assuring yourself, “I am going to consider this, no matter my unfamiliarity with it. I deserve no less.”

This quote was sent in to us by Kathryn L. a primary care physician, who is the first person in her family to ever work in the health care field. Good for you, Dr. Kathryn!!

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Mature man wearing eccentric clothes

“Fashion is made to become unfashionable.”

– Coco Chanel

Coco Chanel was the legendary orphanage-raised French fashion designer who founded the iconic Chanel brand. She is credited with freeing women from the constraints of staid fashion. Coco understood that fashion is, and always will be, a fluid concept. By its very nature, what’s “in” today will be “out” tomorrow. The same goes for the workplace, whatever type of work you do. As just one example, advertising ad time used to be sold by salespeople; then came digital ad sales, using fewer people and more software; increasingly, there are fewer ad “sales” and more automated “matches” made by means of algorithms, designed and overseen by artificial intelligence. In this fast-changing world, you cannot become complacent. Rather, make continual adaptation a personal habit. What is “in” today will, by its nature, surely be “out” tomorrow, regardless of your industry, field or profession.

This quote was sent in to us by Jamie H., who works daily in the fashion world. Our thanks go out to you, Jamie. Keep up your own adaptation, and maybe you will end up the next Coco.

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High Road And Low Road concept road sign with blue sky background

“I’m going to take the high road because the low road is so crowded.”

– Mia Farrow

It is so, so tempting to “fight fire with fire,” to throw back at others the “bricks” they throw at you. I’ll admit it: I share temptations to “honk when I am honked at.” Even worse, I have been stupid after others have been stupid at me. Looking back, though, each time I joined others on the “low road” I later regretted it, and each time I continued my path on the “high road,” my outcomes were better, longer lasting, and more satisfying. Maintaining your true self, the respect, credibility and trust of others – and your self-respect – is always in your very best interests, even though it doesn’t feel that way at the moment. Taking the “low road” is just too great a cost, at too little reward, in both the short term and long term. And everything I note above is doubly true and doubly important at work, where just raising your voice, or using a harsh word, can now get you fired for “cause.” Yikes! So, take a deep breath, stay on the “high road,” and call me in the morning.

This quote was shared with us by Les G., a client of my firm, and wise man extraordinaire. Thanks, as always, got you to you, Les.

If you would like to contribute a saying, proverb or quote, we’d love to receive it and share it with our Blog Family. To do so, just send it to “The Boss,” Vanessa@ExecutiveLaw.com.

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Grandfather with his grandson working in the garden

“I like gardening – it’s a place where I find myself when I need to lose myself.”

– Alice Sebold

This is one quote I heartily endorse. I am one of those who feels less caught up with the crazier parts of life when I am highly engaged in the wondrous simplicity of gardening, whether indoors or outdoors. If you have not been bitten by the gentle rapture of gardening, well, then you have something to look forward to. Even one single plant on your desk at work can diminish the stress and anxiety of your workday. Go buy yourself a nice little plant to be your silent daily friend, and give it a try. As you take care of it – I promise – it will take care of you.

This is the third quote sent to us by Jody K. of Laconia, New Hampshire. Keep ‘em coming, Jody. They’re always great.

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Asian Chinese businessman listening to his partner with eye contact

“People start to heal the moment they feel heard.”

– Cheryl Richardson

It is so, so true. Whether at home, at work, or anywhere else, being “heard” – in the deepest sense – is a very powerful antidote to distrust, upset, imbalance, and other manifestations of bodily and emotional disease and distress. I think the feeling of being truly “heard” gives a person hope that, once being “heard,” they may soon return to health, calm and internal peace of mind and spirit. At work, especially, a place where there so often arises feelings of insecurity, take the time every now and then to truly communicate, to “hear” another person, to show that person they are being truly “heard.” It can only make things better.

This quote was sent to us by Beth R., one of our original Blog Family Members, from Austin, Texas, whose support and encouragement have inspired so many of my blog posts. Beth, I bow to the divine in you.

If you would like to contribute a saying, proverb or quote, we’d love to receive it and share it with our Blog Family. To do so, just send it to “The Boss,” Vanessa@ExecutiveLaw.com.